The thinking girls guide to the right guy

How Knowing Yourself Can Help You Navigate
Dating, Hookups, and Love


“Why can’t I get a guy to like me?”
“Should I hook up with him?”
“How can I make this relationship work?”


While young women today are more savvy and independent than ever, most still want a partner−someone to share a romance with, or maybe even a lifetime. But all too often, their relationships crash and burn. This empowering guide shows women how to shift focus, so instead of trying to be what he wants, they can figure out what they need to be happy and fulfilled−and whether he has what it takes.

Vivid, realistic stories of diverse women in their 20s are interwoven with evidence-based tools designed to help readers build confidence and achieve their goals. An exciting, caring, and respectful relationship is possible−here's how to take control and make it happen.



Praise for

The Thinking Girl's Guide to the Right Guy:
How Knowing Yourself Can Help You Navigate Dating, Hookups, and Love

“A thoughtful, engaging, and evidence-based book that combines insightful analysis with practical suggestions and tools. Rich in examples, this is an easy and enjoyable read.”
—Andrew Christensen, PhD, coauthor of Reconcilable Differences, Second Edition

“This book puts women in the driver's seat on the bumpy road to the right man.”
—Wendy L. Walsh, PhD, author of The 30-Day Love Detox

“Finally, a book for intelligent women who are serious about finding a healthy relationship, not just a warm body. Too many beautiful and successful women get stuck in bad relationships, but with honesty, open-mindedness, and willingness, that can change. In so many of the stories in the book, I felt like I was reading about my own life. You will, too.”
—Alex Redcay, LSW, psychotherapist, Highland Park, New Jersey

“Unlike many self-help books, this one doesn't present formulas for 'catching' a guy. Instead, it helps you tune into your own feelings, plans, and desires. It is full of important advice about the steps to take in building a healthy relationship.”
—Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD, author of Invisible Chains



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